Wednesday, October 22, 2014

A short story – When Things Go Wrong ….


This is the last post was written for Write Tribe “Rediscovering Your Blogging Groove Day 7 of the challenge.

I have not been able to post on time, but I do not want to leave the challenge incomplete, so here I go to share and short story I have read from the inspirational quote… “When Things Go Wrong…..

An old man lived alone in Minnesota.  He wanted to spade his potato garden, but it was too much of hard work.  His only son, who would have helped him, was in prison. The old man wrote a letter to his son and mentioned his situation;

“Dear Son, I am feeling pretty bad because it looks like I won’t be able to plant my potato garden this year.  I hate to miss doing the garden, because your mother always loved planting them. I am just getting too old to be digging up a garden plot.  If you were here, all my troubles would be over.  I know you would dig the plot for me, if you weren’t in prison”

Shortly, the old man received this telegram: “For Heaven’s sake, Dad don’t dig up the garden! That’s where I buried the guns!” At 4 a.m. the next morning, a dozen FBI agents and local police officers showed up and dug up the entire garden without finding any guns.

Confused, the old man wrote another note to his son telling him what happened, and asked him what to do next. His son’s reply was: “Go ahead and plant your potatoes, Dad.  It’s the best I could do for you from here”.
No matter where you are in the world,
if you have decided to do something deep from your heart, You can do it !

May you be Inspired!

Tuesday, October 21, 2014

Why give Dowry?



I am writing for Blog Action Day, which was on 16 October, 2014. I could not post earlier, I am doing it today. Blog Action Day brings together bloggers from different countries, interests and languages to blog about one important global topic on the same day. This year’s topic is: INEQUALITY.

I am participating in Write Tribe's Rediscovering your Blogging Groove. Today is Day 6 and the prompt for the day is - Ask a question.

Discrimination begins right from the time a child is born in the family. I remember one old friend asking me, you have one child, is it expenditure or income. Meaning to say a male child will bring in income, and a female child is a curse, that will add to the burden in the family in the form of expenditure. 

Parents get worried if it’s a girl child, they start investing for them right from birth, so that by the time they mature and complete their education, they will be settled in marriage, and a lot of expenditure is incurred for the marriage.

It does not stop there, the saga continues, with a lot of customs wherein the bride will keep visiting their parents for first festival, first new year, and first of everything, even the first delivery is the expenditure for the parents.  Even the so called educated women follow these customs, and it’s a matter of pride to get brides who are rich and who can afford to make their husbands rich by giving them two/four wheelers, and have big fat weddings at the cost of the bride‘s family.  

Despite all the efforts made by the parents, brides are still not very secure and safe; we read so much in the newspaper death due to dowry harassment, suicide because of dowry, bride burning, attempt to murder…. The Indian women's rights activists campaigned for more than 40 years to contain dowry deaths, such as the Dowry Prohibition Act 1961 and the more stringent Section 498a of IPC (enacted in 1983).

Using the Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act 2005 (PWDVA) implemented in 2006, a woman can put a stop to the dowry harassment by approaching a domestic violence protection officer. I remember addressing a few of the issues related to dowry, when I was working for an NGO that was the service provider for recording the Domestic Violence cases and forwarding them to the Project Director, women and child welfare department.

National Crime Records Bureau (NCRB) figures state that 8,233 dowry deaths were reported in 2012 from various states. The statistics work out to one death per hour.

One woman dies every hour due to dowry related reasons on an average in the country, which has seen a steady rise in such cases between 2007 and 2011, according to official data.

The number of deaths under this category of crime against women were 8,618 in 2011 but the overall conviction rate was 35.8 per cent, slightly above the 32 per cent conviction rate recorded in the latest data for 2012.

It’s time to wake up and raise our voice against those demanding dowry; let us join hands and fight against this evil “SAY NO TO DOWRY”

Thursday, October 16, 2014

Gratitude Link Up !

Thanking Corinne for providing information on the links for Gratitude link up!
This post is inspired from linkup on Laurel Regan’s Alphabet Salad

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My gratitude list for today!
  • I am blessed with good health, got up early and did some yoga stretches
  • Got some time for breathing exercises
  • Spent some quiet time in meditation.

  • Practiced positive affirmations that made me happy and energetic
  • Enjoyed singing while riding to my place of work, and returned safe despite traffic 
  • Facilitated an issue the client found difficult to handle, felt confident and grateful for having made a good beginning!!
  • Happy to see my daughter taking responsibility to complete her home assignment independently
  • Glad to have read some inspiring messages
  • Getting back to re- reading a favorite and an inspiring book
  • Interesting place visited - Shilparamam, Hyderabad with my daughter and my friend with her daughter a place for art & crafts and also a model of rural village set up



  • Went out for lunch at Hyderabad House and enjoyed the delicious biryani
  • Energetic till the end of the day and closing this day with a gratitude post !
  • Grateful for being connected to Gratitude link
Be Grateful & Be Happy !

 

Tuesday, October 14, 2014

Day 4 Link Posts

This post is written for Write Tribe – fourth day


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This post is linked  to forgiveness and gratitude,  from everydaygyaan.com/forgiveness-and-gratitude posted by Corinne ..


I strongly promote gratitude in my life; and believe that it is very important to be grateful for everything we have and possess in our lives. I found that being grateful has kept me positive and happy, despite a lot of challenges in my life…. I never underestimate the power of gratitude, and so I wanted it become a way of life for me; hence I am doing my best to sustain this attitude all the time.

Recently I attended a seminar, wherein a lady presented a research paper on the link between gratitude and forgiveness among the IT employees stating that forgiveness and gratitude are positive psychological characteristics that are connected to well-being.  She went on explain the research process as to how they arrived at the results.

Earlier in my life I did not connect gratitude and forgiveness-  as I looked at them separately..  Reading the blog reminded me of all the times, I found difficult to forgive myself for all the mistakes I made in my life and the pressure I put on myself to be perfect, thereby blocking myself to learning. 

In the process it was also a struggle for me to forgive others. I remember so many times I refused to let go of some experiences wherein I felt manipulated and exploited.  At the same time, I was completely aware that forgiveness is important to move ahead in my life… thanks to all those spiritual gurus whom I encountered in my life; and who helped me understand the value of forgiveness and letting go of the past. 

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Louise Hay in her book “You can Heal Yourself teaches to let go of the past, and encourages to make the right choice, which can impact and influence the future.  The positive affirmations that is suggested is mostly on love, peace, acceptance and harmony in ourselves, others and in and around the world.

Now when I look back at those persons and events that brought pain into my life, I realize the very same experiences have helped me to move on, find alternatives, and explore possibilities in understanding myself better, value those who love and care; enabling me to become a little more wiser, to see my own contributions to the situations that I have created.  

So in a way I am thankful for every experience and every person for  providing me lessons, otherwise I would not have learnt. Gratitude leads one to be  generous enough to forgive everyone and everything, thus setting oneself free from within in the process of finding our purpose for existence.

I renew my choice to forgive myself and others every day of my life  & I renew myself to continue  my journey  with gratitude !!

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I managed the fourth day post for Write Tribe … .. grateful to all of you, for inspiring…. I am sorry I am finding difficult to read your posts with my existing tight schedule, however  I will make  time to visit your blogs ! 

Be Blessed & Be Happy !!

Monday, October 13, 2014

Day 3 - Book Review


This post is written for Write Tribe Third day theme: Write a Review Post

I have read many books, but have never attempted to write a review post, so this day is a challenging one for me to respond to the theme.   Nevertheless, I am attempting to write a review post on a book that I have read years ago by Dr Joseph Murphy; it was one of the finest book called “The Power of Your Subconscious Mind”.

I was very impressed with this book, when I read it for the first time.  This book has some 20 chapters, every chapter speaks about how the subconscious works in our lives, the power of the subconscious mind, and how we can get everything and anything in our lives by believing in the power of our subconscious to heal, inspire, strengthen and bring in prosperity in our lives.

The author shares about how our mind works; he explains the difference between the conscious and the subconscious.  He also speaks about the mental healings in ancient times and modern times.  He provides practical techniques in mental healing, with appropriate examples of using our subconscious to get the results we want, to create health, wealth and riches.

Dr Murphy also shares on how scientist use the subconscious mind to receive guidance, for inventions, to solve  various problems in relationships, to break or build a habit, to remove fears and to stay young and  happy. After every chapter the author gives us the summary, highlighting the main points to remember what we have read…

I enjoyed reading this book, and remember sharing it with many of my friends. I was so inspired that I bought a few books and gifted to my near and dear ones.

If you have not read this book, I recommend you to read…..  I have not read the printed word for a long time…  hope to get back to reading and learning to review..

Linking this to write tribe festival !


Be Blessed & Be Happy!

Sunday, October 12, 2014

Day 2 - Why Listen?

This post is written for Write Tribe second day theme: Answer a Question
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Listening is act of Love – to listen is to Love

I have been very lucky in my life; for I have always found very authentic and credible persons in the form of friends, spiritual guides/gurus, mentors, teachers, colleagues who were always there for me to listen to me whenever I needed help.

I experience a higher and deeper sense of gratitude because whatever I am now today is because of all those lovely people who gave time to me, listen to my struggles, helped me make decisions at the appropriate times of life, and directed me to value persons more than things, and have taught me to listen with love.

I thought I have become a good listener; ask my daughter, and she will complain I am not listening;

I am still learning to be a good listener.

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To Listen is to Understand 
(not judge, evaluate, question, take information and use it against the person.)

This is so common, we find very few people who listen to Understand.. …Most of the time we come across people who are just hearing, waiting to judge, getting ready to answer, evaluating, questioning the  motivations/intentions of the persons and also taking the information to be used against and also misinterpret them. 

No doubt, more than ever today, we find there is a great need for counselors in our country; because there are people of all age group looking for someone who can LISTEN without judging, without any prejudice, without evaluating them and questioning their motives and intentions.

Just by providing understanding, we can help persons from getting into severe psychological problems, and sometimes we can even prevent them from self-harm, suicide, and prevent them to get into smoking and alcohol addictions.

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Listening also is therapeutic and can heal
While dealing with domestic violence, the first thing that I do is to listen to the victims, who have so much of pent up emotions; and they seem to remember with such details, all that has been happening in their marital life and they continue to suffer, finding ways and means to deal with violence that has been going on for years.  

Listening is therapeutic and provides psychological space for them unburden themselves giving chance for healing and moving on to take the next step towards empowerment.

What are your thoughts on Listening ? 

Saturday, October 11, 2014

Day 1 -Write a List - Rediscover your blogging Groove


I am glad to associate myself with Write Tribe. 

I thank Corinne for introducing me to Darren’s post; It did help me to begin in a small way. Here are 7 things in my life that keeps me motivated:

My Family
David my husband has been my biggest support; he has always been very accommodative, helpful and encouraging me to move ahead, be it my education, I could complete two post graduations (one in sociology and another one in psychology).  He also lends his helping hand in maintaining our house and sometimes even in cooking.  My daughter Dorothy is a joy for us, and brings in a lot of happiness and is my great motivator, full of life, fun, laughter and inspires us with her jokes, songs and dance.  My family has been my strength in whatever I do in my life.

My work
Work has always been very fulfilling in my life; as most of the time I chose to work in the service sector and working for more than two decades has made me happy.  I thank all those who have hired me, and provided a lot of opportunity for learning, I worked in one organization for 13 and half years in various capacities, traveled within the country, associated myself in workshops, training's and programmes.  I moved to another organization and worked for 7 years, and now I am in an University for the last 3 and half years, its been a long journey and work has always been my greatest motivator.

My Friends
Friends are the biggest blessings of my life, at every stage of my life I made good friends, who not only inspired, guided and pushed me to the next level to use my capacity, but have been my positive energy, as I kept moving on, I made new friends, and I continue to make even now; some of them have brought the best out of me; a few have helped me in decision making, some have stood by me at tough times of my life, enabling me to cope with all the struggles I faced, and a few have walked the extra mile to bring smile on my face… so I love my friends and I treat them like my extended family.

My students
The last 3 and  half years that I worked in the counseling centre has been very meaningful to me; as I encounter a lot of students who come with different problems.  Most of the times I am amazed at their simplicity and trust they place in me, as they open up their lives and share with faith…. I feel privileged to be associated, and I see so much of goodness in them.. .. an experience so divine that pushes me and helps me get stronger day by day motivating me to commit myself for service.

You (Bloggers)
I do not write regularly, even though I do make promises to myself; but I find difficult to strike a balance, meeting students, taking a session and being part of the training always takes priority, and with managing home and work, most of the times I procrastinate…. Despite all this whenever I read your posts I am inspired and I learn so much… so my friends I am glad to read your posts. Thanks for motivating me, otherwise i would not have been meeting you at write tribe…. Do appreciate all of you for your inspiring posts.

Plants /Garden
I have started enjoying myself in the nearby park with my daughter every day.  It’s a small beautiful park, full of trees, lovely lawn and space for children to play which is just 10 minutes’ walk from the place I live. I have begun to enjoy walking barefoot on the wet lawn; I take ten rounds around the walking path that is created.

I love the sound of children running around, laughing and making noises, there are also a few senior citizens who come and relax. Recently the colony committee had encouraged residents to take saplings from the garden to plant at home.

I was happy to take two different kinds of saplings and have put them in the pot, watching over, and watering it every day, feel good when I look at the green plants and now I have fallen in love with the green color, and it’s quite energizing and uplifting.

Thank you notes
Receiving Thank you notes!! I just love it…  I do not throw any thank you notes; I keep collecting them and love re reading them.  Of late I have been receiving a lot of thank you messages on emails and whats app from friends, students and colleagues.  It does make a lot of difference to me, and keeps reminding me to be thankful and stay grateful 24/7.  So most of the time, I am happy as gratitude keeps me happy and productive.

Hope to stay connected with you all! would also love to hear your thoughts ...

Be Blessed & Be  happy ! 

 

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